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"James was totally cool, but when I found out he used an Android phone, I was so over him..." -some girl to her girlfriends, somewhere, probably...

toomuchtodo 3y ago
https://nypost.com/2019/08/14/sorry-android-users-these-iphone-snobs-wont-date-you/ https://nypost.com/2019/08/14/sorry-android-users-these-ipho... https://leafandcore.com/2019/08/24/green-bubbles-are-a-turn-off-why-some-iphone-users-wont-date-android-users/ https://leafandcore.com/2019/08/24/green-bubbles-are-a-turn-...
- hammeringnails 3y ago
  > Brooklyn resident > freelance designer The first article reads like a parody. Being rejected by someone who lets brand-loyalty to billion dollar companies dictate their dating preferences isn't even 'a blessing in disguise'. It's just a plain and simple blessing.
SOLAR_FIELDS 3y ago
I’m not a part of app dating world, but from my understanding the way these apps work is a series of snap judgements. Android vs iPhone is but one of these. I don’t think the problem is really about Android or iPhone at all, but rather that we live in a reality where people make snap value judgements on these apps based on limited information very quickly, and it just so happens that Android/iPhone is one of those factors.
- hospitalJail 3y ago
  This kind of shows how out of touch we get when we make 6 figures. Android or Iphone shows wealth? A $1000 dollar purchase for something you use daily is supposed to be expensive? But when you are in poverty or lower-middle class, $1000 is a lot of money. It just doesnt have the same meaning when you have money. I imagine the dating world has a bunch of things like this because you meet people of different classes.
TeMPOraL 3y ago
That's secondary/high school level stuff, but sure, it happens. Many teens think like this, and they they grow out of it - that's part of the process. At least most do.
roarcher 3y ago
You jest, but it happens. The mystery to me is why a guy's reaction to it would be "damn I wish I had an iPhone so that girl would like me" and not "I'm glad I don't have an iPhone so I can weed out these nutjobs".
- JamesBarney 3y ago
  Because the dating scene is like the hiring scene. There are 100 applicants for every position and in that situation it makes sense to use very noisy low value signals that are cheap. And just like hiring where there are great employers with silly hiring practices there are great partners with silly filtering rules. And you can cut yourself off from a large part of the market or play the game. Unlike the potential employer or partner I'm not going to use a silly filter as my filter.
  - roarcher 3y ago
    I think you're giving far too much credit to the reasoning abilities of people who filter their dates this way. They're not carefully coming up with heuristics to optimize their "application process". It's just plain ordinary shallowness. But that aside, your entire analogy is based on the idea that you need to "win" iPhone Girl. What makes her worth winning, and why doesn't she need to win you? You're allowed to have criteria too. One of mine is that I won't be with someone who has poor judgement. It's the reason I don't date women who are into astrology, or choose their partners based on the brand of their phone. To use your analogy, iPhone Girl is a job that pays $30K a year while demanding 70 hours per week. That's not good enough for me, I don't care how nice her campus is.

toomuchtodo 3y ago

https://nypost.com/2019/08/14/sorry-android-users-these-iphone-snobs-wont-date-you/ https://nypost.com/2019/08/14/sorry-android-users-these-ipho... https://leafandcore.com/2019/08/24/green-bubbles-are-a-turn-off-why-some-iphone-users-wont-date-android-users/ https://leafandcore.com/2019/08/24/green-bubbles-are-a-turn-...

hammeringnails 3y ago
> Brooklyn resident > freelance designer The first article reads like a parody. Being rejected by someone who lets brand-loyalty to billion dollar companies dictate their dating preferences isn't even 'a blessing in disguise'. It's just a plain and simple blessing.

SOLAR_FIELDS 3y ago

I’m not a part of app dating world, but from my understanding the way these apps work is a series of snap judgements. Android vs iPhone is but one of these. I don’t think the problem is really about Android or iPhone at all, but rather that we live in a reality where people make snap value judgements on these apps based on limited information very quickly, and it just so happens that Android/iPhone is one of those factors.

hospitalJail 3y ago
This kind of shows how out of touch we get when we make 6 figures. Android or Iphone shows wealth? A $1000 dollar purchase for something you use daily is supposed to be expensive? But when you are in poverty or lower-middle class, $1000 is a lot of money. It just doesnt have the same meaning when you have money. I imagine the dating world has a bunch of things like this because you meet people of different classes.

TeMPOraL 3y ago

That's secondary/high school level stuff, but sure, it happens. Many teens think like this, and they they grow out of it - that's part of the process. At least most do.

roarcher 3y ago

You jest, but it happens. The mystery to me is why a guy's reaction to it would be "damn I wish I had an iPhone so that girl would like me" and not "I'm glad I don't have an iPhone so I can weed out these nutjobs".

JamesBarney 3y ago
Because the dating scene is like the hiring scene. There are 100 applicants for every position and in that situation it makes sense to use very noisy low value signals that are cheap. And just like hiring where there are great employers with silly hiring practices there are great partners with silly filtering rules. And you can cut yourself off from a large part of the market or play the game. Unlike the potential employer or partner I'm not going to use a silly filter as my filter.
- roarcher 3y ago
  I think you're giving far too much credit to the reasoning abilities of people who filter their dates this way. They're not carefully coming up with heuristics to optimize their "application process". It's just plain ordinary shallowness. But that aside, your entire analogy is based on the idea that you need to "win" iPhone Girl. What makes her worth winning, and why doesn't she need to win you? You're allowed to have criteria too. One of mine is that I won't be with someone who has poor judgement. It's the reason I don't date women who are into astrology, or choose their partners based on the brand of their phone. To use your analogy, iPhone Girl is a job that pays $30K a year while demanding 70 hours per week. That's not good enough for me, I don't care how nice her campus is.