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That’s the point—it’s ambiguous. It’s better to use more words to indicate what you’re saying hi for than to try and force me to acknowledge you by hiding your
by twodave 3y ago
That’s the point—it’s ambiguous. It’s better to use more words to indicate what you’re saying hi for than to try and force me to acknowledge you by hiding your reasons up front. That is a form of manipulation.
- burnished 3y agoThat is kind of a terminally online attitude about it don't you think? Exchanging pleasantries before getting to the point is a part of a lot of cultures in-person verbal communication and the point is to avoid the appearance or actuality of treating another person as a machine to be operated for maximum profit. It just doesn't translate to online text communications at all, is so maladapted that it becomes actively rude. Its gauche to call shennanigans on a simple faux-paus
- twodave 3y agoI don’t know what your point is, truthfully. If we are to be considerate of our fellow human then in my opinion we should be aware of the medium we communicate on. I think everyone is smart enough to understand that just because I’m in your contacts list doesn’t mean I’m available, especially in a work context where just saying “hi” back removes me from whatever context I was in. Obviously if we are in person it is different.
- burnished 3y agoMy point in brief is that characterizing this behavior as broadly manipulative is ridiculous.
- mock-possum 3y agoYeah, it’s up there with “hey what are you doing right now?” Or “do you have any plans tomorrow?” It’s trying to encourage acquiescence before anything has even been discussed. It’s definitely a manipulative tactic.