The point they were gently trying to make is that your approach is... robotic. People tend not to be robotic in their childbearing/rearing decisions, valuing em

The point they were gently trying to make is that your approach is... robotic. People tend not to be robotic in their childbearing/rearing decisions, valuing emotional attachment and traditional ideas of family over min-max optimization at the societal level. Not to mention that adoption is not a simple process nor one without downsides for everyone involved. It can and does work, but is rarely a first resort for good reason.