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I’m well aware that not all women are the same but we’re talking in generalities here and there is a reason why the “don’t swipe right unless you’ve over 6ft” t

by rcarr 3y ago

I’m well aware that not all women are the same but we’re talking in generalities here and there is a reason why the “don’t swipe right unless you’ve over 6ft” thing is a tinder trope. > There's a good chance the difference you're describing experiencing comes mostly from your own internalised perceived confidence from feeling taller and feeling a difference in body image. I’m sorry but no. If anything, I was less confident, because nights out in Northern England can result in violence at any moment if you’re not careful and I was now tottering around in 5 inch heels which is a significant handicap if you find yourself in a pickle. The simple fact of the matter is that I had far more girls coming up to me and initiating conversations and making eye contact than I ever did without the shoes. And that was consistent over several nights. I stopped wearing them because it felt sleazy to essentially be engaging in deception and ultimately dissatisfying whenever I pulled a woman while wearing them - were they with me because they actually liked me or because I was now meeting some bullshit requirement? Would they actually consider dating me or would I be ruled out the moment I showed up in converse? So I went back to not wearing them and subsequently got far less attention and had to work far harder to get anywhere. Sorry if this does not line up with your optimistic view of life and dating but that is the reality.

defrost 3y ago
It doesn't line up with my decades of actual real life experience at all, but I can see that this is clearly your peceived reality, sure.
- rcarr 3y ago
  I ran this experiment when I was in my early twenties and I’m now in my thirties mate, so don’t try playing the “decades of real life experience” card. If you want to run the experiment yourself and come back to me with your findings then I’m all ears. Until then, how about you stop trying to play armchair psychologist with internet strangers?
maybeitis 3y ago
> there is a reason why the “don’t swipe right unless you’ve over 6ft” thing is a tinder trope Seems like an obvious way to demoralize single men, make them feel worthless, depressed, unproductive. Which is to say if I were running a psy-op campaign against the West, I’d definitely be using that tactic.
- rcarr 3y ago
  > Seems like an obvious way to demoralize single men, make them feel worthless, depressed, unproductive. Which is to say if I were running a psy-op campaign against the West, I’d definitely be using that tactic. I've dated girls that have been taller than me and I've also been rejected multiple times in person because of my height. It wouldn't surprise me if this kind of psy op thing is going on, but trying to gaslight men into thinking that some women don't take height or money into consideration and that it's all in their head is one of the main reasons why lots of guys are turning to muppets like Andrew Tate. People can't keep denying the lived experience of these men and hand wave it away as them just lacking confidence or having the wrong attitude. Women, just like men, aren't saints. A sizeable portion of them will reject you for completely arbitrary reasons like this and it will hurt. But you just have to accept it, take it on the chin without making a scene and find the women who won't.

by rcarr 3y ago

defrost 3y ago

It doesn't line up with my decades of actual real life experience at all, but I can see that this is clearly your peceived reality, sure.

rcarr 3y ago
I ran this experiment when I was in my early twenties and I’m now in my thirties mate, so don’t try playing the “decades of real life experience” card. If you want to run the experiment yourself and come back to me with your findings then I’m all ears. Until then, how about you stop trying to play armchair psychologist with internet strangers?

maybeitis 3y ago

> there is a reason why the “don’t swipe right unless you’ve over 6ft” thing is a tinder trope Seems like an obvious way to demoralize single men, make them feel worthless, depressed, unproductive. Which is to say if I were running a psy-op campaign against the West, I’d definitely be using that tactic.

rcarr 3y ago
> Seems like an obvious way to demoralize single men, make them feel worthless, depressed, unproductive. Which is to say if I were running a psy-op campaign against the West, I’d definitely be using that tactic. I've dated girls that have been taller than me and I've also been rejected multiple times in person because of my height. It wouldn't surprise me if this kind of psy op thing is going on, but trying to gaslight men into thinking that some women don't take height or money into consideration and that it's all in their head is one of the main reasons why lots of guys are turning to muppets like Andrew Tate. People can't keep denying the lived experience of these men and hand wave it away as them just lacking confidence or having the wrong attitude. Women, just like men, aren't saints. A sizeable portion of them will reject you for completely arbitrary reasons like this and it will hurt. But you just have to accept it, take it on the chin without making a scene and find the women who won't.