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ah, sorry, now I see what you mean. I think the mistunderstanding is on the word “serious” here. I think the OP means “serious” as in “we are seriously commit

• solardev 3y ago
  It's okay. It's hard to gauge tone online in the best circumstances, and the HN threading isn't super obvious. No worries. I was just curious how the Japanese handle those "ah, you're great but... the sex was not" situations, especially being a high context and super polite society. Like do they just culturally place less weight on it, and accept that they're going to not enjoy sex much, and that's okay if the rest of the relationship is great? Do they communicate about it and try to improve it? It's hard to imagine sex therapy in that culture. Are things changing with the younger generations? Etc. I want to learn about these nuances (just out of curiosity). And yeah, I can believe there are romantic relationships where sex isn't the primary driver, especially when you're older, but I think by and large that is no longer the norm in the US. We use hookups as a "trial run" for more serious relationships... even if sex isn't the only consideration, it at least a major one for most Americans, I think. But we're also a more individualistic and hedonistic culture than the Japanese, so I'm curious how it works there. What we might call "sex positive"... is that even a thing there?