One thing I can articulate - I want my children to have high expectations for themselves and be "ambitious" about persuing hard opportunities in front of them.

One thing I can articulate - I want my children to have high expectations for themselves and be "ambitious" about persuing hard opportunities in front of them. Versus having victim mentality. One thing that's obvious is my wife and I both exemplify this attitude, as do our immigrant parents (eg her dad went from broke immigrant to international biz owner). I also think raising your kid on a religious context (religion is at its base the idea that your choices matter a lot) is a positive. I say this as someone who grew up an atheist, but that's another thing we are doing.