Why is your way better? Because they complain about all the consequences of their actions without changing them? They complain about their tiny apartment, abou

Why is your way better? Because they complain about all the consequences of their actions without changing them? They complain about their tiny apartment, about their out of date phones and computers, about how much their animals cost in time and money, about how they have to take suboptimal medications because they can't afford the correct ones? Then when an emergency happens they have to beg money off their friends. "Having a different value system" is almost always code for shitty behavior and poor impulse control.