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I think marriage is overrated. Just a construct of society. You can have kids with a partner, but really no reason to formalize it with “marriage”. I guess the

by xyst 3y ago

I think marriage is overrated. Just a construct of society. You can have kids with a partner, but really no reason to formalize it with “marriage”. I guess there are tax reasons though that make it more logical though.

lkschubert8 3y ago
There's also other rights/benefits that come with it like implicit transfer of estate, access to a loved one in a hospital due to being "family", and ability to share insurance.
newZWhoDis 3y ago
I agree in principle, but getting married was a five figure a year tax reduction back when I did it. Like it or not, the government unfairly taxes single people.
- elevaet 3y ago
  Do you live somewhere that allows income splitting?
hombre_fatal 3y ago
Meh, I thought this in my early 20s. But if nothing else, marriage is an agreement that you’re not just gonna nope out when there’s adversity or when something better comes along. It’s a powerful mutual gesture. If you aren’t compelled by that idea, there’s someone out there who will. Maybe you have to dump your current 6-year-long situationship to go look for them, but hey, it’s not like you’re married. ;)
- cultofmetatron 3y ago
  > an agreement that you’re not just gonna nope out when there’s adversity or when something better comes along. This has zero legal binding whatsoever while having exit clauses that statistically heavily favor women even in cases where they are the ones initiating. While it may make sense on a case by case basis, its a statistically terrible decision to bet on
- lsj0627 3y ago
  You nailed it: there is power in that mutual gesture - it creates a bond that pushes both parties to work through challenges instead of just noping out with a break up. There's a reason they call it "tying the knot". Source: A 40-year old who has no interest in marriage and only saw it as an "antiquated social construct" when I was younger. I learned there's more to it.
giraffe_lady 3y ago
There are the obvious legal/political rights and financial privileges that come with it that others are discussing. But there are also subtle but real and pervasive social & community benefits to it. You are often perceived by default as "established," reliable, trustworthy when you are married, in ways you wouldn't be in an unmarried partnership. "Just a construct of society?" Sure. So is money. Something being a social construct doesn't mean it's fake, or powerless.
hospitalJail 3y ago
Tell us about your situation. How many kids do you have? How long have you been living with your partner? If you wanted to quit a job and start a company, would your partner cover your expenses?

by xyst 3y ago

lkschubert8 3y ago

There's also other rights/benefits that come with it like implicit transfer of estate, access to a loved one in a hospital due to being "family", and ability to share insurance.

newZWhoDis 3y ago

I agree in principle, but getting married was a five figure a year tax reduction back when I did it. Like it or not, the government unfairly taxes single people.

elevaet 3y ago
Do you live somewhere that allows income splitting?

hombre_fatal 3y ago

Meh, I thought this in my early 20s. But if nothing else, marriage is an agreement that you’re not just gonna nope out when there’s adversity or when something better comes along. It’s a powerful mutual gesture. If you aren’t compelled by that idea, there’s someone out there who will. Maybe you have to dump your current 6-year-long situationship to go look for them, but hey, it’s not like you’re married. ;)

cultofmetatron 3y ago
> an agreement that you’re not just gonna nope out when there’s adversity or when something better comes along. This has zero legal binding whatsoever while having exit clauses that statistically heavily favor women even in cases where they are the ones initiating. While it may make sense on a case by case basis, its a statistically terrible decision to bet on
lsj0627 3y ago
You nailed it: there is power in that mutual gesture - it creates a bond that pushes both parties to work through challenges instead of just noping out with a break up. There's a reason they call it "tying the knot". Source: A 40-year old who has no interest in marriage and only saw it as an "antiquated social construct" when I was younger. I learned there's more to it.

giraffe_lady 3y ago

There are the obvious legal/political rights and financial privileges that come with it that others are discussing. But there are also subtle but real and pervasive social & community benefits to it. You are often perceived by default as "established," reliable, trustworthy when you are married, in ways you wouldn't be in an unmarried partnership. "Just a construct of society?" Sure. So is money. Something being a social construct doesn't mean it's fake, or powerless.

hospitalJail 3y ago

Tell us about your situation. How many kids do you have? How long have you been living with your partner? If you wanted to quit a job and start a company, would your partner cover your expenses?