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In many ways. It means taking active steps in making the victims feel welcome and safe in the place they were in. How would you feel if after being mugged by a

In many ways. It means taking active steps in making the victims feel welcome and safe in the place they were in. How would you feel if after being mugged by a close friend, others would tell you to let justice work its way (for 6 months) and stay really close with said friend ? It's about giving support, about supporting the victims and being with them, it's about ensuring that the two of them are separated. Otherwise, not only does the victim lose trust in one friend, they also lose everything else. Nobody is asking you to go at the accused and beat them up. They're asking you to act as a buffer, as a safety net. It means questioning and grilling said accused because, hey, this other friend (that you trust, right?) has accused them of fucked up things. And yes, it means spending less time with the accused. Because you know what ? The rate of false accusations is extremely low.

raspyberr 3y ago
>It means taking active steps in making the victims feel welcome and safe in the place they were in. That's already presuming they're right though. >The rate of false accusations is extremely low. And that's the case because we don't instantly believe the accusor. I say this mainly because if we assume that there are many bad actors out there we must also assume that there are people out there who aim to gain attention or hurt someone through a false accusation. It undermines legitimate cases but that doesn't mean it doesn't happen. And it likely happens more often on the internet now because of it has cultured an attention seeking environment.
memefrog 3y ago
>How would you feel if after being mugged by a close friend, others would tell you to let justice work its way (for 6 months) and stay really close with said friend ? If it is a matter of one person's word against another's, why would they believe me over the other person? I do not expect that I am any more or less trustworthy than the average person. Talking about "victims" is presumptuous. A complainant becomes a victim when the crime is proved. Someone isn't automatically a victim just because they say they are. Everyone would love to 'believe victims' but that would require being able to tell precisely who is and who isn't actually a victim... At which point there's nothing to "believe", because you _know_ one way or the other.

raspyberr 3y ago

>It means taking active steps in making the victims feel welcome and safe in the place they were in. That's already presuming they're right though. >The rate of false accusations is extremely low. And that's the case because we don't instantly believe the accusor. I say this mainly because if we assume that there are many bad actors out there we must also assume that there are people out there who aim to gain attention or hurt someone through a false accusation. It undermines legitimate cases but that doesn't mean it doesn't happen. And it likely happens more often on the internet now because of it has cultured an attention seeking environment.

memefrog 3y ago

>How would you feel if after being mugged by a close friend, others would tell you to let justice work its way (for 6 months) and stay really close with said friend ? If it is a matter of one person's word against another's, why would they believe me over the other person? I do not expect that I am any more or less trustworthy than the average person. Talking about "victims" is presumptuous. A complainant becomes a victim when the crime is proved. Someone isn't automatically a victim just because they say they are. Everyone would love to 'believe victims' but that would require being able to tell precisely who is and who isn't actually a victim... At which point there's nothing to "believe", because you _know_ one way or the other.