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I have a different reading of GP. It’s not that being an adult involves pain, but that growing up almost certainly involves pain; changes, uncertainty, giving u

I have a different reading of GP. It’s not that being an adult involves pain, but that growing up almost certainly involves pain; changes, uncertainty, giving up stuff, all of this causes pain. And I certainly agree that people seem to be afraid of growing up. Last time I met with my friends from college for a trip, I enjoyed the first few days, yet I became unnerved by the idea that they seem frozen in time. And I don’t think I’m being judgmental of they having a good time, because they didn’t seemed to be having a good time. Most of the talks were about them having problems to keep doing the same things as 15 years ago, dealing with the consequence of trying to do the same things and overall misery about the fact that they are not in their 20s anymore. I mean and don’t say that they need to grow up, have kids and “act like adults” but they definitely seemed to just refuse change. If this is what people mean when they talk about the infantilism in current generation, I agree with them and also find it worrisome.

mlyle 3y ago
> Look at all the "adult" men today, especially in America for some reason, whose desks are littered with action figures and whose offices contain a shrine to comic book superheros and Star Wars/Trek that would put the Sistine Chapel to shame. ... > These are people who do not take their lives seriously. Someone clearly never told them that they're not 10 years old anymore. Growing up / moving / progressing / changing is important. But a fear of being childish is not the same thing-- indeed it's something more that was a feature of my childhood than my adulthood. When important stuff is going down, I'll buckle up. Even in other times, I'll face big issues and think and consider. I will mentally temper myself into someone who understands more things and is a broader person. I will have adult conversations. I will-- reluctantly-- confront the ephemerality of so many things in life. And I will still come back and play with toys and enjoy video games.

mlyle 3y ago

> Look at all the "adult" men today, especially in America for some reason, whose desks are littered with action figures and whose offices contain a shrine to comic book superheros and Star Wars/Trek that would put the Sistine Chapel to shame. ... > These are people who do not take their lives seriously. Someone clearly never told them that they're not 10 years old anymore. Growing up / moving / progressing / changing is important. But a fear of being childish is not the same thing-- indeed it's something more that was a feature of my childhood than my adulthood. When important stuff is going down, I'll buckle up. Even in other times, I'll face big issues and think and consider. I will mentally temper myself into someone who understands more things and is a broader person. I will have adult conversations. I will-- reluctantly-- confront the ephemerality of so many things in life. And I will still come back and play with toys and enjoy video games.