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> There's no point. It's a no win situation because you're only going to make somebody angry, never change anyone's mind and everyone else in the room will be u
by sublinear 3y ago
> There's no point. It's a no win situation because you're only going to make somebody angry, never change anyone's mind and everyone else in the room will be uncomfortable and/or leave because they just showed up to see everybody, share food, find out how life and family is going and have a good time.
Total strangers will absolutely talk about all of that and more if they pass the vibe check regardless if they disagree. You don't have to agree to get along and have fun. The way someone carries themselves is precisely what makes them unique and interesting and its a vital skill to have. Bars are the tried and true institution for developing this. Go to any bar after midnight on a weeknight when the regulars are the majority instead. Nobody is talking about sports at that hour, and the friendships made are all the stronger for it. For those that can hang, that's a win.
- brightball 3y agoTotal strangers is key here. Family gatherings or groups of friends have a risk associated with those conversations. Strangers don't. You don't have anything to lose with people you don't know.
- sublinear 3y agoThe new people don't suddenly become agreeable doormats when they turn into a regular. They become friends. That's why they're friends (the honesty). It's a sad state of social dysfunction that so many people are so afraid of disagreement. That aversion is the source of all the conflict because white lies only paint you into a corner.
- whywhywhywhy 3y agoActual friends don’t care. I wouldn’t mind an extremely disagreeable drunk argument about some hard political stuff with friends. Would just write it off the next day. Cutting people out of your lives too quickly leaves you with just boring agreeable people.
- brightball 3y agoI have no issue with disagreement. I know a lot of people who get heated though. Not everyone can handle it.