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For what it's worth I was a teetotaler for religious reasons till 18, they I drank through my 20s (usually 1-2 beers in pub with friends, on weddings etc I dran
by ajuc 3y ago
For what it's worth I was a teetotaler for religious reasons till 18, they I drank through my 20s (usually 1-2 beers in pub with friends, on weddings etc I drank wódka pretty heavily cause I'm in Poland, but that was maybe twice a year thing). I stopped again in 30s for health reasons (unrelated to drinking).
There isn't much difference IMHO. Most people don't care if you drink. The single biggest issue is dancing without alcohol, but I managed in high school so I'm fine now.
- contrarian1234 3y agoThat's super interesting. You feel you are connecting and making friends at the same pace? I moved from a very drink-heavy society to one where people drink very sparingly. I now often make aquaintences and have the feeling that if only I went out for some drink with them then we could potentially be friends. It never happens, and life makes up sail past each other Maybe I'd still not connect :)) but my gut feeling is that I could at least make 30% more friends if not significantly more
- ajuc 3y agoI'm still going to after-work parties from time to time, I just drink nonalcoholic stuff. The biggest difference in friend-making was when I graduated and started to work, not when I stopped drinking 5 years later. Also I was never very social to begin with. So maybe what's normal for me is "not connecting" for you :)
- contrarian1234 3y agoYeah, I could see maybe life circumstances not bringing it out. I'm naturally quite shy and reserved and not particularly outgoing around new people. So I feel some drinks help in this regards as it set a nice social setting to open up. But for instance if you're mainly meeting friends-of-friends then I could see alcohol playing a smaller role Interesting to think about. Thanks for the perspective :)