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Please remember not to ask for a pay rise too, otherwise you'll be making inflation worse! /s Yep it sucks. Many people I know cannot afford unless there are t

Please remember not to ask for a pay rise too, otherwise you'll be making inflation worse! /s Yep it sucks. Many people I know cannot afford unless there are two people paying the bills. You need two to tango for kids of course, and some might argue why do you need a 3 bed house if you are single without kids (I am assuming here - you may not be). Of course that is no one's business apart from your own and shouldn't factor in to this.

rcarr 3y ago
> why do you need a 3 bed house if you are single without kids Because the 3 bed house is a signal to potential mates that you are financially capable of starting a family. Don't get me wrong there's a lot that goes into picking a partner and not everyone is going to be bothered by it, but there's a substantial portion out there who are going to look at where you live as an indicator of whether you're a potential long term suitor. Which is sad really because I think people used to meet, fall in love with the actual person rather than a checklist, and then took on challenges together and grew as a result, like moving into a small or rundown house, renovating it and then starting a family. There is an insidious streak in dating culture now where getting with someone who hasn't already made it is interpreted as "settling for less than you deserve". Don't get me wrong, you've got to have some standards and dealbreakers, but if you watch any of the matchmaking shows on Netflix, the criteria most of the dates have for their potential partners is wild. There's a reason Sima Aunty is always telling them to compromise, she knows exactly what's up!
Aromasin 3y ago
I want a 3 bed house because some time soon I'll probably need to have kids, else my partner be too old to conceive. I work from home most days, so a 3rd room would be nice for an office or if we want a 2nd child. We will likely make do with a 2 bed flat (still 200k if we're lucky in the arse end of nowhere - 250k in a place we'd actually enjoy living). I don't know any of my older colleagues or family that had to settle for that; again, following the same career path or worse. My parents managed a 3 bed house on the South coast on a nurse and chef salary. That would be functionally impossible today.

rcarr 3y ago

> why do you need a 3 bed house if you are single without kids Because the 3 bed house is a signal to potential mates that you are financially capable of starting a family. Don't get me wrong there's a lot that goes into picking a partner and not everyone is going to be bothered by it, but there's a substantial portion out there who are going to look at where you live as an indicator of whether you're a potential long term suitor. Which is sad really because I think people used to meet, fall in love with the actual person rather than a checklist, and then took on challenges together and grew as a result, like moving into a small or rundown house, renovating it and then starting a family. There is an insidious streak in dating culture now where getting with someone who hasn't already made it is interpreted as "settling for less than you deserve". Don't get me wrong, you've got to have some standards and dealbreakers, but if you watch any of the matchmaking shows on Netflix, the criteria most of the dates have for their potential partners is wild. There's a reason Sima Aunty is always telling them to compromise, she knows exactly what's up!

Aromasin 3y ago

I want a 3 bed house because some time soon I'll probably need to have kids, else my partner be too old to conceive. I work from home most days, so a 3rd room would be nice for an office or if we want a 2nd child. We will likely make do with a 2 bed flat (still 200k if we're lucky in the arse end of nowhere - 250k in a place we'd actually enjoy living). I don't know any of my older colleagues or family that had to settle for that; again, following the same career path or worse. My parents managed a 3 bed house on the South coast on a nurse and chef salary. That would be functionally impossible today.