You're essencially valuing your own experience as more real than everyone else's experience and saying that although we may all look at the same situation, you

You're essencially valuing your own experience as more real than everyone else's experience and saying that although we may all look at the same situation, you are correct simply because you know the correct way to look at the scenario. It's pretty circular to me. Now, speaking about your experience... isn't it possible that your female friends would soften the way they talk about men around you? Despite being as you say a 'feminine little guy', you're still a man. Any reasonable person would tone down their language to avoid offending their friend. Anecdotal evidence: I have a female friend who will swear that women are worse than men but I believe she's suffering from the same lack of perspective you are: no man would speak so freely around her and thus she thinks men are more gentlemanly than they really are.