I fully grant that having kids changes the dynamics. A lot. But I'm not saying to scold or "having a direct talking" with the kids. I'm saying to engage. It

I fully grant that having kids changes the dynamics. A lot. But I'm not saying to scold or "having a direct talking" with the kids. I'm saying to engage. It works far better than you give credit there. Now. I also fully grant that I may be speaking from privilege. Mayhap something about me looks more approachable for whatever reason. I lament that I don't know how to spread whatever that is.