I was a stay at home dad for both of my kids, and still do the lion's share of caregiving in my family. If nothing else, the experience showed me exactly how un

I was a stay at home dad for both of my kids, and still do the lion's share of caregiving in my family. If nothing else, the experience showed me exactly how unbalanced the distribution of caregiving work is between men and women, both in concrete terms and in people expectations of who's job it's "supposed to be." There's plenty of petty sexism around it, I had plenty of people say things like "oh you're giving mom a break," or, "you're babysitting the kids today," and there's very much an expectation that men are worse at it than women. You could view that as misandrist, but (imo) there was often the unspoken assumption that my wife wasn't living up to her responsibilities because I was doing "her" job. It's not that we don't have those responsibilities, it's that we (as a group) are overwhelmingly less likely to be primary caregivers and to have to adjust our for-money work lives around the those responsibilities.