There was a comment here earlier explaining how many modest/humble/non-confrontational/etc qualities portrayed as reflections of good character in this article

There was a comment here earlier explaining how many modest/humble/non-confrontational/etc qualities portrayed as reflections of good character in this article by PG come from a place of privilege. I think it’s gone now, does anybody have a copy of it / is the author around? It was probably unnecessarily mean but it was insightful for me and made me reflect. Would appreciate any help finding it, thanks