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I don't understand how a person falls into complete homelessness, barring severe mental illness or addiction. Don't you have family or friends you could at leas

by _xnmw 3y ago

I don't understand how a person falls into complete homelessness, barring severe mental illness or addiction. Don't you have family or friends you could at least stay with temporarily? I moved to a country where I have zero family, but even here I have friends I could stay with if I ended up being unable to pay the rent.

qingcharles 3y ago
I moved to the USA, I have zero family here. I went to jail and every single friend I had over here decided to forget I existed. I had one useful friend left in the UK. I'm wanted by ICE too, which doesn't help. I do not have anyone I can stay with.
greybeardednyc 3y ago
Not everyone has friends or family capable of helping them… or doing so without it significantly impacting their family/friends ability to avoid falling into the same situation. Additionally, temporarily is fine when you have prospects to lift you from having to resort to relying on the generosity of friends/family but for those that don’t, it’s difficult to ask for help (don’t want to burden those you “love”), and difficult to provide any (“want to help but can’t afford it”)
dazc 3y ago
'I moved to a country where I have zero family, but even here I have friends I could stay with if I ended up being unable to pay the rent.' Not parent post but... Imagine a scenario where friends and family are the last people on Earth you are going to ask for help. Not everyone is of the same mindset you describe. Pride, mental health issues, family history, etc all play a part. I was homeless once, a combination of these things is what stopped me asking for help. I have relatives who are regulars on the Sunday Times Rich List, some good loyal friends and 3 siblings. Go figure.
majormajor 3y ago
> even here I have friends I could stay with if I ended up being unable to pay the rent Time plays a factor. How long do you think they'd put you up? One month? Six? A year? Two years? Five years? And if you pick up some bad habits while being unable to get back on your feet and living with friends... that can get you booted more quickly.

by _xnmw 3y ago

qingcharles 3y ago

I moved to the USA, I have zero family here. I went to jail and every single friend I had over here decided to forget I existed. I had one useful friend left in the UK. I'm wanted by ICE too, which doesn't help. I do not have anyone I can stay with.

greybeardednyc 3y ago

Not everyone has friends or family capable of helping them… or doing so without it significantly impacting their family/friends ability to avoid falling into the same situation. Additionally, temporarily is fine when you have prospects to lift you from having to resort to relying on the generosity of friends/family but for those that don’t, it’s difficult to ask for help (don’t want to burden those you “love”), and difficult to provide any (“want to help but can’t afford it”)

dazc 3y ago

'I moved to a country where I have zero family, but even here I have friends I could stay with if I ended up being unable to pay the rent.' Not parent post but... Imagine a scenario where friends and family are the last people on Earth you are going to ask for help. Not everyone is of the same mindset you describe. Pride, mental health issues, family history, etc all play a part. I was homeless once, a combination of these things is what stopped me asking for help. I have relatives who are regulars on the Sunday Times Rich List, some good loyal friends and 3 siblings. Go figure.

majormajor 3y ago

> even here I have friends I could stay with if I ended up being unable to pay the rent Time plays a factor. How long do you think they'd put you up? One month? Six? A year? Two years? Five years? And if you pick up some bad habits while being unable to get back on your feet and living with friends... that can get you booted more quickly.