I am also diagnosed and I have an alright time. Here are my reccs: 1. Set your own notification preferences to @mentions only. Tell your friends they need to t

I am also diagnosed and I have an alright time. Here are my reccs: 1. Set your own notification preferences to @mentions only. Tell your friends they need to tag you for anything urgent or you won't see it until later. For bigger servers where you might want to get notified from a news channel, just set preferences on that channel or see if there is an optional notification role available. I check the backlog on my favorite channels only once or twice a day and they do not bother me out of band, ever. 2. Review your list of servers and leave any that abuse @everyone or that you have not actually checked into for awhile. This is user behavior, not the platform. 3. just speedclick all the fucking tutorials once and they will not come back.