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Online dating is rough. I worried over the pandemic that the main place people used to form social bonds that could turn into a romantic relationship, Work, wou

Online dating is rough. I worried over the pandemic that the main place people used to form social bonds that could turn into a romantic relationship, Work, would disappear as people retreated from offices and started working from home. But I think the answer may be complicated than that. Maybe people are more afraid these days to pursue romantic relationships with people they meet at work due to fear of the consequences that have been smeared all over the media in recent years. I think this is a shame. I'm happily married but I've worked in a few jobs before where I've really clicked with someone, and the thought did pass through my mind that if we were both single, maybe there could be something there. And I wouldn't be surprised if the same thought occurred to them. I have no idea how, in that situation, I would have gone about it though, but it would probably be spending a lot of time with that person outside of work as part of an extended social group. But chances to do this dwindle as people move between cities/towns more frequently for work. I guess that's what pushes people to use these dating apps. I have a theory that people who meet their loved ones through pre-existing social groups, have happier long term relationships with their partners. Screw Match and their silly monopoly on romance.

bushbaba 3y ago
There’s a real risk of courting at work. Don’t do it, it’s not worth the HR investigation for sexual harassment. Multiple post employers I’ve seen some men not take no for an answer. I’ve seen some woman over react from a single attempt by a male. tldr you hit on a girl/guy at work you do risk a HR violation.
- greybox 3y ago
  Yeah I can definitely see this. Maybe the problem then isn't that we don't feel we can approach people at work, but that we don't have long term, large social groups where we can meet potential partners
TMWNN 3y ago
>Maybe people are more afraid these days to pursue romantic relationships with people they meet at work due to fear of the consequences that have been smeared all over the media in recent years. I think this is a shame. I'm happily married but I've worked in a few jobs before where I've really clicked with someone, and the thought did pass through my mind that if we were both single, maybe there could be something there. And I wouldn't be surprised if the same thought occurred to them. I have no idea how, in that situation, I would have gone about it though Anti-sexual harassment training, and more broadly the discouraging of socialization between men and women as bushbaba mentioned, has definitely reduced the opportunity for men and women to marry. The flip side of the male executive no longer being able to chase his secretary around a desk to try to pinch her on the butt is another executive not being able to politely court the secretary he is in love with (and vice versa). I don't have a good answer for how to get the one without the other, but both are consequences of modern sensibilities.

bushbaba 3y ago

There’s a real risk of courting at work. Don’t do it, it’s not worth the HR investigation for sexual harassment. Multiple post employers I’ve seen some men not take no for an answer. I’ve seen some woman over react from a single attempt by a male. tldr you hit on a girl/guy at work you do risk a HR violation.

greybox 3y ago
Yeah I can definitely see this. Maybe the problem then isn't that we don't feel we can approach people at work, but that we don't have long term, large social groups where we can meet potential partners

TMWNN 3y ago

>Maybe people are more afraid these days to pursue romantic relationships with people they meet at work due to fear of the consequences that have been smeared all over the media in recent years. I think this is a shame. I'm happily married but I've worked in a few jobs before where I've really clicked with someone, and the thought did pass through my mind that if we were both single, maybe there could be something there. And I wouldn't be surprised if the same thought occurred to them. I have no idea how, in that situation, I would have gone about it though Anti-sexual harassment training, and more broadly the discouraging of socialization between men and women as bushbaba mentioned, has definitely reduced the opportunity for men and women to marry. The flip side of the male executive no longer being able to chase his secretary around a desk to try to pinch her on the butt is another executive not being able to politely court the secretary he is in love with (and vice versa). I don't have a good answer for how to get the one without the other, but both are consequences of modern sensibilities.