That is not in any way villainization. It was a polite and empathetic look at how well-meaning people could do harm. That they didn't know better is an explana

That is not in any way villainization. It was a polite and empathetic look at how well-meaning people could do harm. That they didn't know better is an explanation, not an excuse. If you are trying to intervene in other people's lives, it's on you to understand whether or not you are doing harm. And please miss me with the false dichotomy between "cluelessly cause harm" and "do nothing ever again". It's not hard at all to ask, "Would it help if..." or, "Was it helpful when I..." and then listen to people.