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Well... while this clearly didnt work on you... It may have for others. I can easily imagine someone who is on their own for the first time suddenly realizing t

Well... while this clearly didnt work on you... It may have for others. I can easily imagine someone who is on their own for the first time suddenly realizing they don't really know how to make new friends or talk to people. Someone shouts something positive at them, they respond and start a conversation, and from there a friendship might start. Is it going to happen every time? Nope. But lots of people are not going to initiate an interaction, even if they are lonely. If someone else does, though, they will engage. I'm saying this as someone who has pretty bad social anxiety, doesnt really like talking to strangers, and someone who has pretty bad depression.

alpaca128 3y ago
> I can easily imagine someone who is on their own for the first time suddenly realizing they don't really know how to make new friends or talk to people I can't. If you have trouble making friends that's obvious long before college. > But lots of people are not going to initiate an interaction, even if they are lonely. If someone else does, though, they will engage. People shouting nice words at me gives me the same vibes as a stranger asking "how are you?" as a greeting, just more aggressive and annoying. I may engage in a conversation but not if it's generic smalltalk.
- boopbeepbop 3y ago
  I can, and this might have even worked for me in college. Everyone’s different, I guess.
  - AlwaysRock 3y ago
    Same. I played sports in high school and college but without that built in forced friend group I would have had a lot of trouble making friends. Something like this would have almost certainly broken me out of my introverted shell.
some_random 3y ago
>Someone shouts something positive at them, they respond and start a conversation, and from there a friendship might start. The trouble is that this very much isn't what was happening. There was no room to respond, and in general I they think they weren't even yelling at any particular person. You certainly could stop and talk to them, but anyone willing to do that wouldn't be the kind of person who didn't know how to start a friendly interaction.
- AlwaysRock 3y ago
  >You certainly could stop and talk to them, but anyone willing to do that wouldn't be the kind of person who didn't know how to start a friendly interaction. You are making a big leap here. There are lots of folks who are capable of having a conversation but dont feel comfortable engaging first with people they dont know.

alpaca128 3y ago

> I can easily imagine someone who is on their own for the first time suddenly realizing they don't really know how to make new friends or talk to people I can't. If you have trouble making friends that's obvious long before college. > But lots of people are not going to initiate an interaction, even if they are lonely. If someone else does, though, they will engage. People shouting nice words at me gives me the same vibes as a stranger asking "how are you?" as a greeting, just more aggressive and annoying. I may engage in a conversation but not if it's generic smalltalk.

boopbeepbop 3y ago
I can, and this might have even worked for me in college. Everyone’s different, I guess.
- AlwaysRock 3y ago
  Same. I played sports in high school and college but without that built in forced friend group I would have had a lot of trouble making friends. Something like this would have almost certainly broken me out of my introverted shell.

some_random 3y ago

>Someone shouts something positive at them, they respond and start a conversation, and from there a friendship might start. The trouble is that this very much isn't what was happening. There was no room to respond, and in general I they think they weren't even yelling at any particular person. You certainly could stop and talk to them, but anyone willing to do that wouldn't be the kind of person who didn't know how to start a friendly interaction.

AlwaysRock 3y ago
>You certainly could stop and talk to them, but anyone willing to do that wouldn't be the kind of person who didn't know how to start a friendly interaction. You are making a big leap here. There are lots of folks who are capable of having a conversation but dont feel comfortable engaging first with people they dont know.