There are people who are responsible, resourceful, and able to care for others well, then there are average people who stumble through life without clear goals

There are people who are responsible, resourceful, and able to care for others well, then there are average people who stumble through life without clear goals but get by okay, and then are people, i.e., addicts, borderline personality-adjacent, and the "failure to launch (ever)" types who absolutely shouldn't have kids and are themselves burdens to others intentionally or through disability without fault of their own. The point is to be a highly-productive caregiver requires a greater level of organizational, wisdom, and internal model formation than someone who is, say, both very young and immature in attitude and behavior. That part of them hasn't developed enough yet to be able to prioritize appropriately and produce better outcomes. The reverse is seen in the decline of aging as we lose more than good habits. I anticipate having to look forward to both ARMD and dementia due to genetics.