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I don't know how you can be in a relationship with someone that has such differences in core philosophical beliefs on topics like who should have full rights an

I don't know how you can be in a relationship with someone that has such differences in core philosophical beliefs on topics like who should have full rights and citizenship. Back in the day it worked because the gap between Democrats and Republicans was relatively narrow. Can't imagine a marriage where one person is a Trump republican and the other a liberal democrat working out.

tomatotomato37 3y ago
I'd wager there are a lot of people who think of themselves as Conservative/Liberal due to mimicry from parents or environment who are actually fairly centrist once challenged. Combined with the fact a lot of people also aren't very engaged with politics to begin with it isn't that hard to see how a seemingly contradictory relationship could actually be quite successful
- Spivak 3y ago
  That's my in-laws. They vote Republican and call themselves conservative because that's how they were raised but you would never know because they're pro-choice, proud lgbt allies due to having a gay daughter and a trans nephew-in-law (name?), supporter of black lives matter, have found family, own an electric car… I know more Republicans who vote for them despite their social issues than do. Trying to predict anyone's views based on the D/R is a gamble at best.
WarOnPrivacy 3y ago
> I don't know how you can be in a relationship with someone that has such differences in core philosophical beliefs on topics like who should have full rights and citizenship. We discussed and had opinions on these things but they were mostly abstract as far as our marriage was concerned. One exception might have been abortion. Our marriage followed her unexpected pregnancy. Though she was strongly in favor of legalized abortion, she was at least as strong against having one herself. > Back in the day it worked because the gap between Democrats and Republicans was relatively narrow. Can't imagine a marriage where one person is a Trump republican and the other a liberal democrat working out. This is it. I don't think it was narrow before. It's that today the distance is far greater and it's turned into a DMZ where people get shot if they try to cross.

tomatotomato37 3y ago

I'd wager there are a lot of people who think of themselves as Conservative/Liberal due to mimicry from parents or environment who are actually fairly centrist once challenged. Combined with the fact a lot of people also aren't very engaged with politics to begin with it isn't that hard to see how a seemingly contradictory relationship could actually be quite successful

Spivak 3y ago
That's my in-laws. They vote Republican and call themselves conservative because that's how they were raised but you would never know because they're pro-choice, proud lgbt allies due to having a gay daughter and a trans nephew-in-law (name?), supporter of black lives matter, have found family, own an electric car… I know more Republicans who vote for them despite their social issues than do. Trying to predict anyone's views based on the D/R is a gamble at best.

WarOnPrivacy 3y ago

> I don't know how you can be in a relationship with someone that has such differences in core philosophical beliefs on topics like who should have full rights and citizenship. We discussed and had opinions on these things but they were mostly abstract as far as our marriage was concerned. One exception might have been abortion. Our marriage followed her unexpected pregnancy. Though she was strongly in favor of legalized abortion, she was at least as strong against having one herself. > Back in the day it worked because the gap between Democrats and Republicans was relatively narrow. Can't imagine a marriage where one person is a Trump republican and the other a liberal democrat working out. This is it. I don't think it was narrow before. It's that today the distance is far greater and it's turned into a DMZ where people get shot if they try to cross.