I suppose my point is the person is fairly 'freshly dead' as you say, but not immediately, people don't (at least in my experience) deal with this sort of thing

I suppose my point is the person is fairly 'freshly dead' as you say, but not immediately, people don't (at least in my experience) deal with this sort of thing immediately, they're not even thinking about it until after the funeral, and started to slightly get a bit of a grip on things again - but yes it's still pretty fresh, and it's not going to take much to push them over the edge, a handwritten note in the dead person's words will bloody well do it! Which is why I wouldn't personally do it, or be glad of it as a recipient in that moment. But look, I'm not telling anyone what to do, obviously (I 'd hope), I just wanted to offer an alternative perspective to the top-level comment surprise that nobody had mentioned this yet as though it was something that obviously should absolutely be done. And as I said in reply to other comment, maybe it wasn't clear, but I'm not saying such a note somewhere else is a bad idea necessarily, I just wouldn't lump it in with 'admin' stuff that they're trying to deal with, keeping emotions in check, personally.