I know the post above was long, but I must mention the contents come from personal experience. One thing I found, sadly, was that people I love and trust inclu

I know the post above was long, but I must mention the contents come from personal experience. One thing I found, sadly, was that people I love and trust including family often become greedy and grasping when there is inheritance at stake. Bear that in mind when you make a list with access details to things like bank accounts. You may not believe it but that is what will happen to your family. I like to think it is a reaction to grief, rather than an innate selfishness.