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It all boils down to responsibility and let's call it the "metaego": the trappings of childhood are immaterial and orthogonal to the balancing of priorities. An
by sacnoradhq 3y ago
It all boils down to responsibility and let's call it the "metaego": the trappings of childhood are immaterial and orthogonal to the balancing of priorities. An adult will do what's best to ensure their future, while a kidult will avoid making hard choices and opt for what's fun or pleasurable. OTOH if one becomes a dead, loveless, overly-serious robot in their quest for adulting, then they've also failed at life. A responsible adult thinks for themselves and constructs an internal leader who observes, plans, and executes at higher levels of abstraction than does a child.
- watwut 3y agoI kinda feel like this completely ignores how human psychology works and how both adults and kids behaved for millenials.
- sacnoradhq 3y agoThere are people who are responsible, resourceful, and able to care for others well, then there are average people who stumble through life without clear goals but get by okay, and then are people, i.e., addicts, borderline personality-adjacent, and the "failure to launch (ever)" types who absolutely shouldn't have kids and are themselves burdens to others intentionally or through disability without fault of their own. The point is to be a highly-productive caregiver requires a greater level of organizational, wisdom, and internal model formation than someone who is, say, both very young and immature in attitude and behavior. That part of them hasn't developed enough yet to be able to prioritize appropriately and produce better outcomes. The reverse is seen in the decline of aging as we lose more than good habits. I anticipate having to look forward to both ARMD and dementia due to genetics.