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Infantilism is such a silly term in this context. I'm a fully grown, reasonably successful person. I know who I am and what I'm doing. I also play video games a
by flkiwi 3y ago
Infantilism is such a silly term in this context. I'm a fully grown, reasonably successful person. I know who I am and what I'm doing. I also play video games and absolutely refuse to wear suits except for a few religious and government events.
In my ever-longer life, I have found that many people at some point expect to put on an adult suit, a metaphorical phase change that involves wearing suits, no longer smiling, putting away the xbox, and the like. I have also found that the vast majority of people who feel very strongly about that adult suit suffer from crushing insecurities. That's ABSOLUTELY not to say that all people who wear suits and do stereotypically adult things are insecure--just, by and large, the ones who lecture and finger-wag at people who don't put on the adult suit.
Put another way, I have extremely high demands of the people I work with. Wearing a suit and not playing xbox does not, by itself, give me confidence that your work product is superior. If someone can give me a good product while wearing a bathrobe on a break from a marathon Fornite session? You do you, boo!
- jojobas 3y agoThe odds of a fortnite binger in a bathrobe turning out a "good product" are rather slim. Putting work (i.e. delayed gratification) before play (instant, or pre-measured artificially-designed-delay gratification) does not guarantee better output, but is pretty much a pre-requisite.
- flkiwi 3y agoI partially reject the premise, that people who play video games are pursuing instant gratification vs. those who "work." Of the hundreds of people I've worked closely with, I've seen no significant difference in willingness to work among the two groups, and there are slackers in both. And, consistently, the gamers, players, infantilists, or whatever produce vastly more creative, interesting work and fine more creative and interesting solutions. In my experience the proper 28-year-olds who put on their proper adult suit and behave like proper adults give me work product that is, at best, competent. I'll take the gamer almost every time, because they're far more likely to be confident and creative.
- inconceivable 3y agomainly because hoodie and flannel pants rocketed past bathrobe tech about 15 years ago.
- peteradio 3y ago> and absolutely refuse to wear suits I'll do you one better, I refuse to wear shirts!