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If you have good relations with your parents as a young/middle aged adult it's actually not a bad idea moving back; it doesn't necessarily mean freeloading off

If you have good relations with your parents as a young/middle aged adult it's actually not a bad idea moving back; it doesn't necessarily mean freeloading off them. If you have kids they get to look after your kids and you get to look after them. After experiencing independence perhaps it isn't so bad learning interdependence with family.

coldtea 3y ago
Yeah, those are not the cases I had in mind - or the extended family living together of times past. More about the "30 year old avid gamer living in parent's basement" or "coming back to live with parents after the dream of skateboarding-pop-singer career didn't pan out".
- Balgair 3y ago
  Not trying to needle you at all here: How many people are like that? I tried to google around for this, but really didn't come up with much, statistics-wise.
  - jhanschoo 3y ago
    Google around for: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/NEET https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/NEET https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hikikomori https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hikikomori
    - the_only_law 3y ago
      Yeah I don’t think most NEETs “ coming back to live with parents after the dream of skateboarding-pop-singer career didn't pan out” as described by GP. In fact, most NEETs I’ve interacted with don’t even have the confidence to get a retail job.
- TeMPOraL 3y ago
  Those are all extremes (yes, these days, even extended family living together is rare), and quite visible ones. But what about the "dark matter" of "alternative life course", i.e. regular people who either can't afford to move out, or realize it's an economically stupid move given the housing costs? Wouldn't surprise me if plenty of such people were casted as "basement gamers", because it's easier to claim new generation refuses to grow up than to accept that prior generations treating housing as investment is preventing the next generation from growing up.
- _dain_ 3y ago
  what about "got a normal job but it still wasn't enough for the rent" that seems like it's way more common
- CatWChainsaw 3y ago
  You can do better than such a boomer caricature.

coldtea 3y ago

Yeah, those are not the cases I had in mind - or the extended family living together of times past. More about the "30 year old avid gamer living in parent's basement" or "coming back to live with parents after the dream of skateboarding-pop-singer career didn't pan out".

Balgair 3y ago
Not trying to needle you at all here: How many people are like that? I tried to google around for this, but really didn't come up with much, statistics-wise.
- jhanschoo 3y ago
  Google around for: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/NEET https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/NEET https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hikikomori https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hikikomori
  - the_only_law 3y ago
    Yeah I don’t think most NEETs “ coming back to live with parents after the dream of skateboarding-pop-singer career didn't pan out” as described by GP. In fact, most NEETs I’ve interacted with don’t even have the confidence to get a retail job.
TeMPOraL 3y ago
Those are all extremes (yes, these days, even extended family living together is rare), and quite visible ones. But what about the "dark matter" of "alternative life course", i.e. regular people who either can't afford to move out, or realize it's an economically stupid move given the housing costs? Wouldn't surprise me if plenty of such people were casted as "basement gamers", because it's easier to claim new generation refuses to grow up than to accept that prior generations treating housing as investment is preventing the next generation from growing up.
_dain_ 3y ago
what about "got a normal job but it still wasn't enough for the rent" that seems like it's way more common
CatWChainsaw 3y ago
You can do better than such a boomer caricature.