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Putting tentative is the biggest asshole move you can do calendar-wise.
by user_named 3y ago
Putting tentative is the biggest asshole move you can do calendar-wise.
- sublinear 3y agoWhere I work it's fine. They're stuff like standups or sprint planning for projects I'm not always actively contributing to. If I need to be there it's because I have a significant number of Jira issues assigned to me. The other meetings I set to tentative are the huge (hundreds of attendees) quarterlies, monthlies, etc. I don't usually do this for one-off meetings unless the organizer just optimistically added people from the org chart. In that case I will ask about it. I'm not saying I won't attend, but just that I don't know if I can. It's an honest answer. All this time adds up.
- d1sxeyes 3y agoWhy? I often respond tentative to meetings, and don't want to come across as an asshole.
- user_named 3y agoIt's a way of you telling them you're not going to tell them if you'll attend or not.
- d1sxeyes 3y agoI see it a bit differently, I see it as 'I have seen this invitation and know this call is happening, but I have other priorities at that time. I will attend if I can, but I don't think my participation is important enough to reschedule', and it gives the organiser an opportunity to say 'actually, we will need you on this call, can you suggest a time when you could definitely make it?'
- mdekkers 3y ago> Putting tentative is the biggest asshole move you can do calendar-wise. First of all, thats not a very nice way of putting things. Secondly your answer has little conversational value, you are not adding to the debate. Thirdly - that’s just like, your opinion, man.
- dasil003 3y agoAdding a bunch of unnecessary people to a meeting is worse.