> If I'm doing something wrong I love finding out about it - otherwise, how will I eve do things right? We're talking about a few different things-- most of wh

> If I'm doing something wrong I love finding out about it - otherwise, how will I eve do things right? We're talking about a few different things-- most of what I said applies to employer/employee relationships. If you hire a known whistleblower, you better make sure there are no skeletons in your closet because they've already proven what they're willing to do with such information. > if your goal for relationships with other people is to prevent them from discovering dirt about you then... I dunno man, I'm not sure how it's possible to live happily around other human beings with that kind of attitude. what kind of person does that make you? In both cases, it's just a matter of discretion. There is no prevention; discovery is inevitable.