Hmm, I live in NYC and am early 30s but can only speak to my experiences here, I haven't found that earning a tech salary was impressive to anyone but I can say

Hmm, I live in NYC and am early 30s but can only speak to my experiences here, I haven't found that earning a tech salary was impressive to anyone but I can say there are certainly a lot of women who earn high salaries who expect men they date to also spend as much as them on frequent international travel, eating out for $30-50 a head several times a week, expect to live in luxury apartments in Manhattan, etc. Whereas if I wasn't willing to do that and put my money into the bank and just live in Brooklyn and don't travel super often, my high income holds no appeal. Note that I do not think either high income or high spending are requisites to date successfully as a straight guy in NYC though. Just noting my observations on how those two factors do play in.