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I am much younger than this guy and have dated way fewer people, and I’ve been involved with two people like that. So it’s almost definitely something they’re d

I am much younger than this guy and have dated way fewer people, and I’ve been involved with two people like that. So it’s almost definitely something they’re doing, given n>50. I’m also not convinced I should date forever and never get married, nor that women are all seeking to simply extract and be entertained by me. This could be related (lol)

talldatethrow 3y ago
I was going to make a distinction in my post about age but decided not to, to avoid making it too long. And it caught me. I will say there was a time this wasn't the case. My highschool gf gave a lot. My college gfs actually gave a bit too. Young women are pretty giving in a way. Eventually that goes away. I don't know if it's from being burned, or learned behavior over time, or just genes/hormones.. but it seems to go away IMO.
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- midoridensha 3y ago
  It might be because the "good ones", like the young women you dated early on, eventually get snapped up into marriages. Eventually, the only women who are left are the not-so-good ones, along with good ones who got into bad relationships and got burned.
  - talldatethrow 3y ago
    That's a decent point, yes. For a second I wanted to argue that many people I know that did marry early have the same gripes, but it's also possible that people that married early long ago married because it was much more expected back then, meaning they may have even married non ideal women too just to get the process of life going. That would explain why many 50 year old men are just as jaded. They married what today would be a bad woman, but they did it early in 1985 when everyone was getting married at 24.
    - midoridensha 3y ago
      Yes, I think that's something that's changed a lot over the decades. These days, people are holding out for better partners, instead of rushing into marriage with someone lousy just because they don't want the social stigma of being a "spinster" unmarried by 30.

talldatethrow 3y ago

I was going to make a distinction in my post about age but decided not to, to avoid making it too long. And it caught me. I will say there was a time this wasn't the case. My highschool gf gave a lot. My college gfs actually gave a bit too. Young women are pretty giving in a way. Eventually that goes away. I don't know if it's from being burned, or learned behavior over time, or just genes/hormones.. but it seems to go away IMO.

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midoridensha 3y ago
It might be because the "good ones", like the young women you dated early on, eventually get snapped up into marriages. Eventually, the only women who are left are the not-so-good ones, along with good ones who got into bad relationships and got burned.
- talldatethrow 3y ago
  That's a decent point, yes. For a second I wanted to argue that many people I know that did marry early have the same gripes, but it's also possible that people that married early long ago married because it was much more expected back then, meaning they may have even married non ideal women too just to get the process of life going. That would explain why many 50 year old men are just as jaded. They married what today would be a bad woman, but they did it early in 1985 when everyone was getting married at 24.
  - midoridensha 3y ago
    Yes, I think that's something that's changed a lot over the decades. These days, people are holding out for better partners, instead of rushing into marriage with someone lousy just because they don't want the social stigma of being a "spinster" unmarried by 30.