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Men suffer from "their own success" and are probably more romantic than women are overall and expect their relationships to be like dreams, hence they really ca
by chad1n 3y ago
Men suffer from "their own success" and are probably more romantic than women are overall and expect their relationships to be like dreams, hence they really can't put too much in a relationship that might fail, considering that the "market" is huge and it's hard to trust most people. It was way easier before to get laid, wasn't it?
- cudgy 3y agoSurely it’s easier to get laid now than before online dating became mainstream. Before online dating, relationships were formed mostly by proximity, convenience and timing. Now, there is a huge list of candidates to attempt contact, advertising themselves in apps and providing some details on what they want.
- abracadaniel 3y agoIs it easier to get a job now that we have many systems for handling applicants? Because it seems like hiring and getting hired is harder, or at least takes many more applications than in the past. Maybe there’s something similar where we’re spending more time tweaking filters to get to a manageable pool, but then accidentally filter down to a group of similar, yet incompatible people. We’re probably not great at judging what we want and maybe more constraints actually force us to consider people we otherwise wouldn’t and discover what we didn’t know we wanted by introducing some randomness. Perhaps dating apps would be more effective if it initiated the matchups and neither side was flooded with a list of people to filter through.
- cudgy 3y agoYes, getting a job is easier too. More options, easier access, and easier application process.
- Rury 3y agoYou'd think so, but it's the opposite. Just look at making friendships, nothing makes you a friend better than proximity, convenience, and timing (childhood friends hello?). Facebook friends? Yeah, not so much...
- cudgy 3y agoWe still have the friends that are proximal and convenient. Online dating augments that.