> my early 20s when I was still a kid You were not a kid. There's an old lady on my road whose (late) husband built their house when he was 18. Maybe he was st

> my early 20s when I was still a kid You were not a kid. There's an old lady on my road whose (late) husband built their house when he was 18. Maybe he was still a kid. > I am nothing like I was when I was 20, or 25. Maybe even 30. It would be very weird if you did not change at all between 20 and 30 but nothing precludes doing that with someone else. 99% of modern relationship advice is bad because it tries to convince people that needing to show up to life with everything figured out is superior to figuring things out together. For almost everyone, the latter is a lot more workable. That doesn't mean it will be free from hardship, but it opens up enormous advantages. Time is not free.