It doesn’t seem like it, but there’s a lot of people around you that feel the same way. You need to be the first mover to find them and make them your friends.

It doesn’t seem like it, but there’s a lot of people around you that feel the same way. You need to be the first mover to find them and make them your friends. Find some fun stuff that you would be interested in doing with friends and create Meetup events for those events. Things like bar trivia and karaoke are good starter events, but right now a lot of communities have great free outdoor events too. Be a good host. Show up early, greet everyone, and make them all feel welcome. At subsequent events, go out of your way to continue making the new people who join welcome (even after you establish some “regulars”). It will take some time and work, but if people can regularly come to expect a good time out with you, you’ll develop the community you seek. Eventually you’ll also have others to host events too, so the burden isn’t squarely on you. Source: I knew nobody in my community a year ago then joined a meetup group where the organizer had done basically this formula. Now I have the closest friends of my life and a significant other from this group.