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Your children aren't going to resent you because they can't watch a YouTube channel. Nobody has ever resented their parents as an adult because of something li

Your children aren't going to resent you because they can't watch a YouTube channel. Nobody has ever resented their parents as an adult because of something like that. My parents didn't let me watch adult-rated movies or play adult-rated games (eg The Godfather, Call of Duty) as a child, while others' parents did. You'd have to be insane to resent them for that. How far do you take this? No rules? "Sorry, no chores in this house: our children will resent us." No boundaries at all? Your children are more likely to resent you when they grow up incapable of hard work and with no sense of delayed gratification because their parents were terrified of ever imposing any rules or expectations on them for fear of causing "resentment". No child is going to suffer socially because they don't watch Mr Beast. It's literally one thing. A child might conceivably suffer socially if they're cut off from all leisure activities, but not being able to watch a YouTube channel is so minuscule as to be laughable. I didn't watch Saturday morning cartoons as a child, as my parents didn't like having the TV on in the morning. Did I suffer socially? Not remotely.

inconceivable 3y ago
not letting your kids watch saturday morning cartoons because you find them to be annoying seems pretty dickish and seems like it has an extremely asymmetric possible negative long run consequence. you're talking about it to this very day in a way that seems like you can't wait to enforce these rules on your own children. i can't recall a single thing my parents did along these lines. this is just not how they operated - by just laying down restriction after restriction. seems kind of shitty, honestly. also my parents didn't teach me how to sit in front of a computer for 20 hours until i got a program to compile without errors. did they MAKE you do stuff like that? lol in fact i remember my parents complaining that i was wasting time on the internet. joke's on them though, now they spend all their time glued to their devices.
- memefrog 3y ago
  > not letting your kids watch saturday morning cartoons because you find them to be annoying seems pretty dickish and seems like it has an extremely asymmetric possible negative long run consequence. What negative long run consequence could possibly be created by not being able to watch noisy, annoying, brain-mush kids TV? I'm glad I was discouraged from watching TV on a saturday morning. I didn't miss it at the time either. I did more interesting things, and half the time I had swimming lessons or sports on a Sat morning anyway. And how is it "dickish"? It's their house. It's their TV. They paid for it, they own it, they control it. That's how the world works, and will always work, and should always work. The idea that they have some sort of obligation to put up with obnoxious screeching American cartoons is just... I don't even know what to say to that. It's just so backwards I can't even put it into words. >you're talking about it to this very day in a way that seems like you can't wait to enforce these rules on your own children. I brought it up because it was relevant to the conversation, It's not like I'm sitting here thinking about it all the time. I probably haven't thought about it once in the last.. 15 years? >i can't recall a single thing my parents did along these lines. this is just not how they operated - by just laying down restriction after restriction. seems kind of shitty, honestly. Restriction after restriction? I mentioned one thing, mate. Relax a bit please. I really don't understand your mindset though. Should parents not set boundaries? People talk all the time about how it should be parents that set boundaries for their children and not the state. Then people like you turn around and suggest that if they actually do that, they're somehow stifling their children and will breed resentment for their whole life. >also my parents didn't teach me how to sit in front of a computer for 20 hours until i got a program to compile without errors. did they MAKE you do stuff like that? lol in fact i remember my parents complaining that i was wasting time on the internet. Of course they didn't "teach" me how to do that, but their parenting influenced by development, because that's what parenting does.
  - scottLobster 3y ago
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- em-bee 3y ago
  we didn't even have a TV to begin with, so there was no argument about what we can or can't watch. but it didn't feel like a restriction. we had a lot of freedoms and we could spend money on things that we needed or wanted. the wish to have a TV just didn't come up, and internet wasn't available yet. now in my home, there is no TV either, but there are computers and internet which provide plenty of entertainment. and yes, MrBeast was popular for a while. i think the problem is not which restrictions are in place but how they are introduced and enforced.
scottLobster 3y ago
If all their friends are watching said youtube channel and they have to sit quiet at the lunch table, yes they will. I was often the low one on the totem pole as a kid in large part because my parents wouldn't allow me to participate in practically any pop-culture my friends were into. I had to be the relatively quiet one at the lunch table more often than not while everyone else was constantly talking/laughing at references I wasn't allowed to get. It sucked. If I had grown up in the smart-phone age I totally would have used my birthday money/occasional lunch treats to bribe my friends for time on their phones, and not told my parents. And where do you get "No boundaries at all" from "perhaps you should let your kid watch Mr Beast because it's relatively harmless and allows them to connect with their peers"? You seem to have a very binary mindset. If letting your kids watch Mr Beast is the deciding factor that makes them incapable of hard work then you're a horrible parent.

inconceivable 3y ago

not letting your kids watch saturday morning cartoons because you find them to be annoying seems pretty dickish and seems like it has an extremely asymmetric possible negative long run consequence. you're talking about it to this very day in a way that seems like you can't wait to enforce these rules on your own children. i can't recall a single thing my parents did along these lines. this is just not how they operated - by just laying down restriction after restriction. seems kind of shitty, honestly. also my parents didn't teach me how to sit in front of a computer for 20 hours until i got a program to compile without errors. did they MAKE you do stuff like that? lol in fact i remember my parents complaining that i was wasting time on the internet. joke's on them though, now they spend all their time glued to their devices.

memefrog 3y ago
> not letting your kids watch saturday morning cartoons because you find them to be annoying seems pretty dickish and seems like it has an extremely asymmetric possible negative long run consequence. What negative long run consequence could possibly be created by not being able to watch noisy, annoying, brain-mush kids TV? I'm glad I was discouraged from watching TV on a saturday morning. I didn't miss it at the time either. I did more interesting things, and half the time I had swimming lessons or sports on a Sat morning anyway. And how is it "dickish"? It's their house. It's their TV. They paid for it, they own it, they control it. That's how the world works, and will always work, and should always work. The idea that they have some sort of obligation to put up with obnoxious screeching American cartoons is just... I don't even know what to say to that. It's just so backwards I can't even put it into words. >you're talking about it to this very day in a way that seems like you can't wait to enforce these rules on your own children. I brought it up because it was relevant to the conversation, It's not like I'm sitting here thinking about it all the time. I probably haven't thought about it once in the last.. 15 years? >i can't recall a single thing my parents did along these lines. this is just not how they operated - by just laying down restriction after restriction. seems kind of shitty, honestly. Restriction after restriction? I mentioned one thing, mate. Relax a bit please. I really don't understand your mindset though. Should parents not set boundaries? People talk all the time about how it should be parents that set boundaries for their children and not the state. Then people like you turn around and suggest that if they actually do that, they're somehow stifling their children and will breed resentment for their whole life. >also my parents didn't teach me how to sit in front of a computer for 20 hours until i got a program to compile without errors. did they MAKE you do stuff like that? lol in fact i remember my parents complaining that i was wasting time on the internet. Of course they didn't "teach" me how to do that, but their parenting influenced by development, because that's what parenting does.
- scottLobster 3y ago
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em-bee 3y ago
we didn't even have a TV to begin with, so there was no argument about what we can or can't watch. but it didn't feel like a restriction. we had a lot of freedoms and we could spend money on things that we needed or wanted. the wish to have a TV just didn't come up, and internet wasn't available yet. now in my home, there is no TV either, but there are computers and internet which provide plenty of entertainment. and yes, MrBeast was popular for a while. i think the problem is not which restrictions are in place but how they are introduced and enforced.

scottLobster 3y ago

If all their friends are watching said youtube channel and they have to sit quiet at the lunch table, yes they will. I was often the low one on the totem pole as a kid in large part because my parents wouldn't allow me to participate in practically any pop-culture my friends were into. I had to be the relatively quiet one at the lunch table more often than not while everyone else was constantly talking/laughing at references I wasn't allowed to get. It sucked. If I had grown up in the smart-phone age I totally would have used my birthday money/occasional lunch treats to bribe my friends for time on their phones, and not told my parents. And where do you get "No boundaries at all" from "perhaps you should let your kid watch Mr Beast because it's relatively harmless and allows them to connect with their peers"? You seem to have a very binary mindset. If letting your kids watch Mr Beast is the deciding factor that makes them incapable of hard work then you're a horrible parent.