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I love articles like this. The writer seems to have no idea they're revealing severe psychological trauma to the readers, and despite it they try to pass it off

I love articles like this. The writer seems to have no idea they're revealing severe psychological trauma to the readers, and despite it they try to pass it off as sage life advice. Like telling everyone you spit in the soup at work but it helps strengthen people's immune systems so everyone should be unsanitary.

switch007 3y ago
Ditto for most of Insta. All those travel pics and nonstop selfies
arisAlexis 3y ago
What is your diagnosis
sledgehammers 3y ago
This is just my empirical evidence - let me know if you disagree and have contrary information - but psychological traumas like this are increasing everywhere I look. In my local community, local country, globally, it's the same story basically: burnout, a need for a life blowup. I think it's clearly a growing trend, the old world just isn't working. Thoughts?
- projectazorian 3y ago
  If you’re posting here, good chance you’re in a generational cohort that is entering prime midlife crisis years.
  - sledgehammers 3y ago
    Good point. What's a little quater/midlife crisis in addition to all the other major crises going on the world simultaneously? Haha. :)
projectazorian 3y ago
Severe trauma? Really? Didn’t see any mention of violence, sexual assault, prison time, or the like. These seem like totally prosaic life choices that more or less worked out fine for him in the end. Maybe the language is a bit overwrought but that could just be to punch things up for the reader.
- hayst4ck 3y ago
  He was unable to make and keep connections that he found valuable enough to preserve. He wrote a post about blowing up your life and barely concentrated on the biggest reason not to, to preserve your social connections and proximity to the people you love to spend time with. I would be very surprised if this person did not have an "avoidant" attachment type. I think you underestimate how severe the trauma of feeling disconnected from other humans can be. I think the authors blog post conveys that he hasn't come to terms with the idea that "Wherever you go, there you are."
  - projectazorian 3y ago
    You can preserve connections after leaving a place or changing a relationship. Most people are capable of this. It sounds like the author was as well, since he mentions having an amicable conversation with his ex-wife after his divorce. Social alienation is very bad, but is not severe trauma. Severe trauma would be something like being held in solitary confinement for months.
    - lm28469 3y ago
      > Social alienation is very bad, but is not severe trauma. Voluntary social alienation can definitely be caused by trauma, I think that's what the person your reply to implied
      - marginalia_nu 3y ago
        The problem with trauma as an explanatory model is is that if you dig deep enough, pretty much anyone has had life experiences that may be characterized as traumatic. And even if you find someone who hasn't, they've clearly lead such a sheltered life that it's a sort of trauma on its own. Because of this, childhood trauma is a sort of universal explanation that will explain things even outside of psychology, everything from wheat allergy to male pattern baldness. You bet there's trauma in there somewhere causing it.
IAmGraydon 3y ago
I think you're being a bit hyperbolic, but I agree with your general sentiment. Talk to some older people who have lived a very satisfying life and ask them what the secret is. I don't think you'll find that it's tearing down their life every few years. That's what tends to happen when you make a bunch of bad decisions and go too far down one leg of the maze before realizing you're now lost. I think happiness comes from listening carefully to your inner intuition. Some unconscious part of your mind already knows what path you should go down. The more you align your conscious experience with that part of your mind, the less you'll find the need to blow up your life to reset.

switch007 3y ago

Ditto for most of Insta. All those travel pics and nonstop selfies

arisAlexis 3y ago

What is your diagnosis

sledgehammers 3y ago

This is just my empirical evidence - let me know if you disagree and have contrary information - but psychological traumas like this are increasing everywhere I look. In my local community, local country, globally, it's the same story basically: burnout, a need for a life blowup. I think it's clearly a growing trend, the old world just isn't working. Thoughts?

projectazorian 3y ago
If you’re posting here, good chance you’re in a generational cohort that is entering prime midlife crisis years.
- sledgehammers 3y ago
  Good point. What's a little quater/midlife crisis in addition to all the other major crises going on the world simultaneously? Haha. :)

projectazorian 3y ago

Severe trauma? Really? Didn’t see any mention of violence, sexual assault, prison time, or the like. These seem like totally prosaic life choices that more or less worked out fine for him in the end. Maybe the language is a bit overwrought but that could just be to punch things up for the reader.

hayst4ck 3y ago
He was unable to make and keep connections that he found valuable enough to preserve. He wrote a post about blowing up your life and barely concentrated on the biggest reason not to, to preserve your social connections and proximity to the people you love to spend time with. I would be very surprised if this person did not have an "avoidant" attachment type. I think you underestimate how severe the trauma of feeling disconnected from other humans can be. I think the authors blog post conveys that he hasn't come to terms with the idea that "Wherever you go, there you are."
- projectazorian 3y ago
  You can preserve connections after leaving a place or changing a relationship. Most people are capable of this. It sounds like the author was as well, since he mentions having an amicable conversation with his ex-wife after his divorce. Social alienation is very bad, but is not severe trauma. Severe trauma would be something like being held in solitary confinement for months.
  - lm28469 3y ago
    > Social alienation is very bad, but is not severe trauma. Voluntary social alienation can definitely be caused by trauma, I think that's what the person your reply to implied
    - marginalia_nu 3y ago
      The problem with trauma as an explanatory model is is that if you dig deep enough, pretty much anyone has had life experiences that may be characterized as traumatic. And even if you find someone who hasn't, they've clearly lead such a sheltered life that it's a sort of trauma on its own. Because of this, childhood trauma is a sort of universal explanation that will explain things even outside of psychology, everything from wheat allergy to male pattern baldness. You bet there's trauma in there somewhere causing it.

IAmGraydon 3y ago

I think you're being a bit hyperbolic, but I agree with your general sentiment. Talk to some older people who have lived a very satisfying life and ask them what the secret is. I don't think you'll find that it's tearing down their life every few years. That's what tends to happen when you make a bunch of bad decisions and go too far down one leg of the maze before realizing you're now lost. I think happiness comes from listening carefully to your inner intuition. Some unconscious part of your mind already knows what path you should go down. The more you align your conscious experience with that part of your mind, the less you'll find the need to blow up your life to reset.