Having grown up around a bunch of ultra-wealthy kids the thing that is being grappled with is that knowing you will never have to do anything from a young age i

Having grown up around a bunch of ultra-wealthy kids the thing that is being grappled with is that knowing you will never have to do anything from a young age is corrosive to most (but not all) children. It's noticeably distinct from the feeling of "you can never truly fail" which is more common with the upper middle class and seems be significantly better for your long-term mental health. I don't think this means you need to actually not leave your children gobs of money, but in my experience it certainly helps to act like you're not for the duration of your kids' childhood.