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Are / were they really 'friends' though if doing so obliterated your connections? Most people tend to misclassify being friends with being open & friendly with

by x3874 3y ago

Are / were they really 'friends' though if doing so obliterated your connections? Most people tend to misclassify being friends with being open & friendly with another.

lannisterstark 3y ago
Yes. Putting people through hoops and then going "were we really friends if you didn't do it for me, huh, HUUUUH?" is a "I'm the main character" mindset. A friend recently deleted all his apps and he asks me I just email him if I want to talk. I'm just not gonna do that. I barely remember to email my work people.
- Eisenstein 3y ago
  > Yes. Putting people through hoops and then going "were we really friends if you didn't do it for me, huh, HUUUUH?" is a "I'm the main character" mindset. Interesting point. > A friend recently deleted all his apps and he asks me I just email him if I want to talk. I'm just not gonna do that. I barely remember to email my work people. Oh. You have zero self-awareness. Got it. Since you can't figure it out yourself -- you are doing that first thing in that second thing. Your poor friend.
  - lannisterstark 3y ago
    >You have zero self-awareness. Not wanting to jump through hoops for someone you don't necessarily care that much about ain't 'zero self awareness' It helps me trim down 'friends' who might not be real friends. I tend not to be the person who tends to bother other people constantly even after getting signals that they don't want to interact with you. Are you?
- phito 3y ago
  Sorry but you're just a bad friend.
  - lannisterstark 3y ago
    I have other friends whom I interact with just fine. I'm not going to go through hoops just for one person I don't care much about, sorry. That's something this strategy helps to trim out. Who I want to talk to and jump through hoops for, and whom I don't.
- wiseowise 3y ago
  > A friend recently deleted all his apps and he asks me I just email him if I want to talk. I'm just not gonna do that. I barely remember to email my work people. If you put them below “work people”, they’re not a friend. Or rather, you’re not a friend.
  - lannisterstark 3y ago
    Indeed. That's something this strategy helps to trim out. Who I want to talk to and jump through hoops for, and whom I don't.
- smohare 3y ago
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- scarlet_lovah 3y ago
  LOL. Wow. Speaking of “I’m the main character”…=)
  - lannisterstark 3y ago
    Ah yeah man totally wanting to jump through hoops (email was just an example), installing shit like wechat, kik, tiktok etc is the same thing) totally makes me the 'main character.' That's something this strategy helps to trim out. Who I want to talk to and jump through hoops for, and whom I don't. ---
peruvian 3y ago
There’s nothing wrong with having acquaintances that aren’t close friends though. I always see this argument and don’t get it. Yea, my “true” friends will contact me anywhere, but it’s nice to have a small network of people I know that I can invite to stuff or even better yet invite me to events and activities. They may also become close friends at some point.
- devnullbrain 3y ago
  >I always see this argument and don’t get it. Internet misanthropes contributing to the trend for people to lose friends and acquaintances as they age.

by x3874 3y ago

Are / were they really 'friends' though if doing so obliterated your connections? Most people tend to misclassify being friends with being open & friendly with another.

lannisterstark 3y ago

Yes. Putting people through hoops and then going "were we really friends if you didn't do it for me, huh, HUUUUH?" is a "I'm the main character" mindset. A friend recently deleted all his apps and he asks me I just email him if I want to talk. I'm just not gonna do that. I barely remember to email my work people.

Eisenstein 3y ago
> Yes. Putting people through hoops and then going "were we really friends if you didn't do it for me, huh, HUUUUH?" is a "I'm the main character" mindset. Interesting point. > A friend recently deleted all his apps and he asks me I just email him if I want to talk. I'm just not gonna do that. I barely remember to email my work people. Oh. You have zero self-awareness. Got it. Since you can't figure it out yourself -- you are doing that first thing in that second thing. Your poor friend.
- lannisterstark 3y ago
  >You have zero self-awareness. Not wanting to jump through hoops for someone you don't necessarily care that much about ain't 'zero self awareness' It helps me trim down 'friends' who might not be real friends. I tend not to be the person who tends to bother other people constantly even after getting signals that they don't want to interact with you. Are you?
phito 3y ago
Sorry but you're just a bad friend.
- lannisterstark 3y ago
  I have other friends whom I interact with just fine. I'm not going to go through hoops just for one person I don't care much about, sorry. That's something this strategy helps to trim out. Who I want to talk to and jump through hoops for, and whom I don't.
wiseowise 3y ago
> A friend recently deleted all his apps and he asks me I just email him if I want to talk. I'm just not gonna do that. I barely remember to email my work people. If you put them below “work people”, they’re not a friend. Or rather, you’re not a friend.
- lannisterstark 3y ago
  Indeed. That's something this strategy helps to trim out. Who I want to talk to and jump through hoops for, and whom I don't.
smohare 3y ago
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scarlet_lovah 3y ago
LOL. Wow. Speaking of “I’m the main character”…=)
- lannisterstark 3y ago
  Ah yeah man totally wanting to jump through hoops (email was just an example), installing shit like wechat, kik, tiktok etc is the same thing) totally makes me the 'main character.' That's something this strategy helps to trim out. Who I want to talk to and jump through hoops for, and whom I don't. ---

peruvian 3y ago

There’s nothing wrong with having acquaintances that aren’t close friends though. I always see this argument and don’t get it. Yea, my “true” friends will contact me anywhere, but it’s nice to have a small network of people I know that I can invite to stuff or even better yet invite me to events and activities. They may also become close friends at some point.

devnullbrain 3y ago
>I always see this argument and don’t get it. Internet misanthropes contributing to the trend for people to lose friends and acquaintances as they age.