Unfortunately many alternatives are infested with extremists. I understand why people like the Fediverse, but it is confusing the heck out of potential new use

Unfortunately many alternatives are infested with extremists. I understand why people like the Fediverse, but it is confusing the heck out of potential new users. Least of all because a lot of people promoting it won't even suggest a specific instance nor is there much information out there about exactly who is running many instances and what their agendas are. Telling people it "doesn't matter" just further adds to the confusion. People want the social-media infrastructure itself to be invisible/boring. But the Fediverse seemingly is too opinionated and surrounded by people with an agenda. It may fail, not because it is bad on paper, but because it just isn't what MANY people want.