Great link and mostly agree. I do question if we can assume any correlation between "regret" and being unloved. Again it would be highly taboo to state you don

Great link and mostly agree. I do question if we can assume any correlation between "regret" and being unloved. Again it would be highly taboo to state you don't love your child. But I suspect regret does not lead to open resentment or a child feeling unloved. There are plenty enough cases of parents/step-parents going so far as to kill a child through regret. I suspect many do "love" the child ironically. Because it's a personal subjective experience, at least you can get a tape measure out for a wiener. I suppose I regret much of my life and current career trajectory but somehow I wouldn't change it for the world because I love so much about it!