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I think the underlying question is to see if regret (or other difficulties like financial hardship or things that require a state actor to intervene) are correl
by kimixa 3y ago
I think the underlying question is to see if regret (or other difficulties like financial hardship or things that require a state actor to intervene) are correlated with planning and consideration. Measuring that is the difficulty.
And as that article state - that "less than 10%" number is coming from a population where it is taboo to admit to regret. People have been shown to be economical with the truth on otherwise anonymous surveys - [0] is a humorous example, so how much that may skew the results would likely need to be looked in to. And that's just the responders who know they're replying inaccurately - with such cultural pressure, they may not admit to themselves - there's lots of examples where people deceive themselves about how they feel about things that may go against society's grain at their time. Introspection is really hard.
So I'd see that number as a lower bound, not necessarily accurate.
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Additionally the cost - 7% of artists not reaching their ambitions is sad, but 7% of children being unloved and resented is a tragedy.
[0] https://www.iflscience.com/men-cant-be-trusted-to-measure-their-own-penis-size-study-finds-68278 https://www.iflscience.com/men-cant-be-trusted-to-measure-th...
- psychphysic 3y agoGreat link and mostly agree. I do question if we can assume any correlation between "regret" and being unloved. Again it would be highly taboo to state you don't love your child. But I suspect regret does not lead to open resentment or a child feeling unloved. There are plenty enough cases of parents/step-parents going so far as to kill a child through regret. I suspect many do "love" the child ironically. Because it's a personal subjective experience, at least you can get a tape measure out for a wiener. I suppose I regret much of my life and current career trajectory but somehow I wouldn't change it for the world because I love so much about it!
- Kiro 3y ago> 7% of artists not reaching their ambitions is sad I know it's irrelevant to your point but I'm sure 99.999% of artists do not even come close to their ambitions. I don't find it sad at all. It's like being sad you don't win the lottery.