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I find hearing about other people's experiences extremely useful. What I don't find useful is when people just tell me what to do. Instead of telling me not t
by newaccount74 3y ago
I find hearing about other people's experiences extremely useful.
What I don't find useful is when people just tell me what to do.
Instead of telling me not to go to Oxford, tell me about the things that surprised you at Oxford. I can make up my own mind about going, and the most effective thing you can do to help me decide is to tell me what it was like for you, without assuming it will be the same for me.
- elteto 3y agoExactly. Your experience does not have to be the same as mine, especially with overtly broad statements. It’s no different than someone saying “Don’t visit city $C. It sucks!”. I mean, it’s a _whole_ city, are you sure _all_ of it sucks? Maybe you were unlucky in your experiences and I don’t have to be. Now, if you tell me “Don’t visit restaurant $R in city $C, I got food poisoning and the service was awful” then I will probably avoid that place. It should really be “If you go to Oxford for graduate studies, in department $D, under professor $P then you will probably have a bad time for the following reasons…”
- smnrchrds 3y agoWhich is exactly what he did, to no avail: > I would sit across from them in the dining hall, plates full of chicken tenders and french fries, and explain that postgraduate education in the UK is largely a way of extracting money from foreign students. Professors over there are checked out, classes are bad, and the whole place is pervaded with this sense of isolation and alienation, like everyone is behind a plate of glass.