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Really, this kind of research points to the folly of the "everyone gets a trophy", "sheltering ego is most important in learning" school of thought. The every-d
by crusso 15y ago
Really, this kind of research points to the folly of the "everyone gets a trophy", "sheltering ego is most important in learning" school of thought. The every-day evidence of that folly litters the corpse of the American public education system.
Praise your kids when they do well. Point it out when they've made mistakes (in a graceful way). Teach them that doing better next time is always within their power if they apply themselves.
Most of all, let them know that you make mistakes but that you learn from your own mistakes and are willing to work hard to do better. Be a good example of coping with life and its difficulties, including the difficulties of parenting.
- ajross 15y agoNo, that's just a straw man arguing for the opposite extreme. It's even better established that consistent failure and lack of praise anticorrelates with educational achievement. The point is balance and sanity, not policy flamage.
- crusso 15y agoSpeaking of straw men... Did you read what I posted or make up something in your mind based upon your preconceptions? All I said was that praise should be deserved. When you disconnect someone's mental model from reality, it has consequences.
- ajross 15y agoWhen you start your post with a phrase like "folly" that "litters the corpse of the American educational system", I think it's a little disingenuous to claim that "all" you said was that praise should be deserved. You have an axe to grind, and you picked up a stone from this article to do it. But the article isn't about broad education policy, it's about very narrow findings in psychology. So yes, your post looks to me like a poorly-informed, knee jerk flame. History, if you will, is littered with the corpses of people who thought they knew exactly how to fix the american educational system (or whatever: pick your policy obsession, it's all the same).