Objective failure? Let's take my three last jobs, door to door: currently 40 minutes by car, 1 hour public; the one before 1 hour by car and close to two hours

Objective failure? Let's take my three last jobs, door to door: currently 40 minutes by car, 1 hour public; the one before 1 hour by car and close to two hours public (and in the opposite direction of the current one); 20 minutes by car, 30 public. Then there were two where public was faster, with roughly one hour public and somewhere between 1.5 and 2 hours by car (traffic can be bitch). All of those were in different directions from where I live, and my spouse works two. Then there are two kids, sports, as I said sports requiring bulky equipment, and all of a sudden are car turns into a really nice thing to have. And no, moving for work is not always an option. Outdoor sports, with kids: kayaking (we are talking about three of those by now), skiing (you don't use the train carrying skiing gear for three). And then there is solid public transport were I live, easily reachable from home. It is the work end, and the middle point, were things get tricky. It is nice so that live without a car works, it just doesn't work for me.