First, it's a some American women thing. The fact that this is common with women in this culture tells you something about this culture more than something abou

First, it's a some American women thing. The fact that this is common with women in this culture tells you something about this culture more than something about women. Similarly, something in this culture tells men that it is acceptable to talk about feelings while drunk, but not sober, until those conversations have happened enough times to have cemented an emotional intimacy between a group (2+) of friends. I can point you to masculine evangelical USian culture where it is considered a mark of friendship to share spiritual struggles and aspirations, carefully negotiated within the intimacy of the group. (In some ways, it's a very healthy masculine culture, and I miss that part.) In this culture, it wouldn't seem out of place for a man to keep a clipping board of spiritual aspirations. (I think I've seen it, in fact, IIRC.)