I don't think you should encourage people (including your kids) to do that: If someone doesn't feel like they should have a relationship with someone, they shou

I don't think you should encourage people (including your kids) to do that: If someone doesn't feel like they should have a relationship with someone, they shouldn't have to. I also think you should consider the context a little bit: I'm trying to tell you that if you're not on your kids' side then they're going to keep some things from you (NB emphasis: "you will lose access to a part of their life forever"), not that they're going to keep everything from you, or "cut you off completely". Did you perhaps miss that and read what I wrote a little too narrowly?