I don't consider "learn something" is anti-pattern. It depends on quality of the library itself to know if it's worth learning. Setting something up is similar

I don't consider "learn something" is anti-pattern. It depends on quality of the library itself to know if it's worth learning. Setting something up is similar. It depends on complexity of toolings. Performance is also dependant on the quality of the generated native query. It abstracts the DB, which i consider a good thing in long term, and of course, some ORM gives you enough escape hatches in a good way. Overall, i love working with a "good" ORM rather than working directly with SQL (for example). But the real world libraries is not good enough for the ORM ecosystem to have good faith on DX side.