You are committing a worse version of that scumbaggery right now. I told you my argument and you reply as if I said something different. I am not talking about

You are committing a worse version of that scumbaggery right now. I told you my argument and you reply as if I said something different. I am not talking about the fact that my sister converted to Hinduism and now, instead of Kristelle, she likes to be called Gauri. We call her Gauri to her face. But her siblings, when discussing events with her in our past, still refer to her as Kristelle amongst each other. That was her identity then. Doing this is not being a jerk.